How many times have you set intentions in January, only to find them forgotten by February? You're not alone—and it's not a failure of willpower.
The problem isn't your commitment. It's that most intentions are set from a place of self-rejection. "I want to lose weight" often means "I'm not okay as I am." "I want to be more successful" can mean "I'm not enough."
Intentions set from self-rejection create resistance. Your subconscious mind recognizes the attack and defends against it.
What if you set intentions differently this year? Instead of focusing on what you want to change, start by accepting what is. From that place of acceptance, ask: "What wants to emerge through me?"
This isn't passive. It's radical. It's the most powerful form of intention-setting because it works with your nature rather than against it.
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